Cleaving into your spouse

Marriage is a big decision in life, probably the biggest one we have to make that will determine a lot Of different factors in one’s life. My mother always told me, once you married,  you marry not only your fiancée, you married the entire family. How true that is and how careful we have to be with the open door policy we have with all the members of our family. Families are the central part of the Creator’s plan and because of that,  we have been blessed with abilities and attributes that will match and help us  grow. However we have to be aware that once married our family will always be our family and we will always rend respect , love and admiration to them, but when decision making comes up for our new family as husband and wife, we are to turn to our eternal companion and figure it out together. Much consume and the advice of living life a c certain way will come from different opinions, but as a married couples we are to politely accept them and consider them as a couple to find which will work the best for our family.

Many couples find themselves fighting or in disagreement over and over again because for some is hard to stop being codependent of mother or father and give the space  that is necessary and draw the line that is needed in order to succeed as a couple. Marriage bring a variety of trials or challenges, while growing together, financial obligations will vary from time to time depending of the need of this family and the stage they are in. I was impressed to learn more about how from toddler years to teenager years a significant change will be made on the recreational and food parts on our budget. It was a great realization to learn that hose changes that may look insignificant can create a big impact in a marriage relationship,  thinking that one of the parties is lacking all of a sudden in the way they have been budgeting. But why this is something that called my attention?. I have come to know many of this couples who suffer from and understanding of each other’s roles and when changes come that affect, specially the financial stability of a family, couples tend to look for target points to blame the other person instead of looking for solutions. In marriage we are to look that the only constant thing is change and change is part of the plan of happiness so we have to be flexible to be adapting rules, budget, meeting, vacation, recreational activities and such to the growth of our children and the need of our family unit, making those traditions our own.