Sacred Roles

Since I joined the Church my dream was always to find that wonderful guy and getting married on the temple, but never imagine the implication that will bring. Living a higher standard life, working hard towards my spiritual goals and temporal progress. Were many years that passed by and I started to worry myself thinking If one day actually I was going to have that blessing, the blessing of making covenants in the temple with that one and only person I wanted to spend e=my forever with. I was for the Church timing old at 25 and no married, for the work standard I was a baby starting to live, it was at that time that I figured preparation was a key and it was not only required for that man to be faithful but for me to be prepared to make those covenants and receive those blessings. It was then that I realized time was valuable and I wasn’t getting old but that actually the Lord was giving me time to prepare and be ready for starting the best travel of my life. The ride presented itself as a wonderful opportunity and it did brought a lot of responsibilities with it.

Marriage presented in the world now a days is presented as a trial period ( If lucky enough to get that far and not only cohabit ate) , If it works is wonderful and if it doesn't is not the end of history but the beginning of a new story, you leave, break it and move on. But, how are we so fast to forget the importance of hard work, diligence and dedication. Not wonderful thing has come in an essay way. Labor itself is a the hardest work we can even go through in order to receive the blessings of a new life joining our family, so why something so sacred, unique and necessary as marriage needed to be an easy labor?. People now days have to understand that the institution of marriage should be establish from two people willing to work hard together, lift each other, encourage each other and willing to through flawless and hardships stick together. Contracts can be renew or nulled covenants are a sacred responsibility.

With marriage comes the roles of each member, husband and wife is responsible on understanding those and acting upon them. One of the roles will be honoring the priesthood, which is God’s authority to act on his name. What a blessing we have as women in Zion to count with such a privilege. Our role of motherhood is as sacred as the authority they hold to act in His name, so is our responsibility to do whatever we can to make marriage work and receive eternal life as a forever family. 

1+1=1

Logic sometimes pays a very interesting role in someone’s life. As we are going through life, we learn to do things a certain way. But there will always be more than one way to do certain things and to obtain the same result. So is it the end result or the process that really matters in these situations? The end result or the process. Comparing such thing to marriage I will say both. If I choose to do something in a certain way and get a positive result then all I’m doing is learning, growing and preparing for the days to come when that preparation will give the fruits, i.e. Friendship in marriage, communication, mutual respect, love, passion and compassion.  

Since we are little we are taught to be courteous, friendly, respectful and caring in any relation we develop with people we come across with, but is not until we do the thinking in what that really means that we come to understand the importance in it.

I have been happily married for almost 4 years, I can say it has been the happiest and most painful time of my life, the why of those t opposite feeling are mixed when we come to an agreement on how things will be handle or how they have should been handle.Happiness doesn't mean an absence of pain. In fact, I truly believe that in order to find happiness in life we must go through experiences that are sometimes unpleasant, in fact I’m a true believer than in order to flavor happiness in life we are to go through experiences that might not be pleasant at all times. Is there where we come to know better our inner person and learn to deal with unfamiliar situations In marriage there is no difference, we are 2 different people who happen to fall in love and try to build a new story together, we come from different backgrounds, raised by other 2 different people and in some cases like mine even different cultures. Is there were true friendship is develop. Friendship doesn’t really just means getting along but learning how to respect each other’s tastes, hobbies, desires, and ambitions and work together to make a one path with a lot of different construction materials. I can be then one bringing the cement and my husband brings the tractor and a shovel and the body to work with it, but at the end what we are looking forward to is that finish road were we both can walk and say we have built that together and become instead of 2 separate souls we will 2 entities turn into one soul. That is where logic will make his trick, even when 1+1 might look as 2, it can actually mean 1 at the end. 

The unselfish path to happiness

Many trends come and go and we seem to adapt depending of the desire we have to accept, adopt or reject certain criteria when presented to it. As a woman raised in a family with values I definitely cherish the value raising a unique and value oriented one.  I definitely will say I’m all for marriage should be preserve, Now the question is why?. This will become a personal not scientific answer to my question. What I have seen and liked in either my family, those around me and so on I  will resume this point of view  in 3 bullet point:

* Starts from the beginning. Education plays a huge role on our decision to be and  stay together. 

* Hard work of raising children should be a priority not only a maybe on the list.  

*The growth of society depends a lot on the value we put into the family unit. . 

Years  have passed and I have been able to observe and learn from family patterns I have encounter myself with.  I have seen that people is taught the value of hard work and the need of being diligent with what we earn( in this case marriage is a contract and we have the right to say we earn our title as spouse ) we have to be determine to stick together unless circumstances are radical as an  abusive marriage or a continuous affair that refuses to be ended.  If we since early ages are taught this principles and the importance of being diligent and consistent with everything we do in life, we will be more prepare for those days of our early and late years, including our marriage. 

Marriage is defined in the lecture as a complex institution that helps unite the needs of the couples and their children are their union produce. We have to understand the definition of this line, the produce, is not something that comes and will grow by itself; we have to guide, teach and follow with its growth. From the formation of establish marriages we are to see the benefits that come after we have been putting our effort in raising the children in a good home, we never said perfect we say GOOD, working and willing to improve this wonderful  type of place to live. But why is so important to stay together , to have a life together and raise our kids together?

From a married stand point, having a team to do a hard yet fulfilling responsibility is such a relief when we are trying to do those things that are necessary to do our role. A team will always work together to achieve one goal. Everybody involved will bring their own point of view, ideas, input, suggestion etc and then as team we will choose what is more beneficial for the success of the team.

That is exactly what marriage is, man and woman will work together as spouse

And did I mentioned society?. How can we mold all of this and landed in society. Well we all are part of a big and vast group called society. We all play a role in what to do and what to expect. Is because of our actions, emotions, contributions and examples that we move other to a better or worse place. In personally want to be an influential person, who plays the role of working as hard as I can to defend to privileges and duties that come with marriage. The most sacred union that can happen in this life that will teach us a whole lot while making us work harder and harder every day to reach the goal.  

That is why is so important for us to understand our role and act responsible according to.